When Lewis writes of the death of his beloved Joy in A Grief Observed, it seems frank and conclusive.
I don’t doubt that it brings him great sorrow and pain, but what hope have I when it becomes the matter of an unsaved person?
All these years I’ve been wanting that very one thing, and all these years I’ve occasionally brought it before the Lord in prayer, but where did I go wrong down the track? My heart aches, my eyes are clouded with tears of grieving, I tremble. Had He not heard all this time?
Yes, I do believe in the absolute goodness, holiness and graciousness of the Sovereign Creator.
Yes, I do believe in the Son, the perfect sacrifice without blemish whose blood was spilt at the cross so I too could cry ‘Abba’.
Yes, I do believe in the Spirit, who lives within and helps me to cry to ‘Abba.’
But for around five years, have I wanted to share my joy with my grandfather.
Five years of sitting anxiously, asking impatiently and doubting myself and God too.
Over the five years I’ve known God, He’s revealed His goodness to me over and over again. I’ve witnessed His Sovereign power at work, and I’ve been humbled by it. Prayer to me helps me step back in line with God, to not wander off my own, but to stand with God knowing that I would make it nowhere without Him. Prayer helps me direct the focus off myself and back to Him, where glory and praise belongs. Prayer helps me realise that I’m weak, selfish and full of malice whereas God is the opposite.
But what happens when I get uneasy praying, ‘Lord, Your kingdom come…’?
What happens when I think about all the people I want to see saved before Jesus’ return?
What happens if praying that just seems unfair to me?
That all those months praying for loved ones went to waste?
That God seemed to have great things on His agenda but not the things that I’m desperate for?
What happens when God seems to ignore something I so urgently want, something that is good (at least to me)?
Surely God sees my pain? How can He let me bear it any longer?
For all of the above, I don’t have conclusive answers, and I won’t pretend I do.
But one thing I know, and that is the fact that because of Christ, God hears me, and God wants the best for me. What is that that is the best? I don’t exactly know, but I trust that it is what it’ll take for me to become more like His Son, that I may be matured and sanctified.
In God’s Sovereign plans I trust, …or want to learn to trust.
It’s not about praying the right way, or praying long enough, praying consistently enough; rather it’s about my trust in my Abba‘s plans, that they are good, and they will bring glory to Him and Him alone. Though I may ask for good things, things that are gifts from God, I have to remember that they are gifts too, and that they shouldn’t distract me from or detract glory from my Abba. Though it pains me to keep wanting the same things, to feel this burden, to be disappointed and discouraged, I know that I can have hope in my Abba‘s plans.
Be it another couple of months, another couple of years, or not at all…
Let me trust in my Abba alone.